From Huffington Post coverage of ConsentStories™ (8.15.16)
Trying To Understand Consent? Ask The LGBTQ And Kink Communities“Vanilla people” are starting to act a little kinky, and that’s a good thing for everyone wondering what’s OK in a sexual relationship.
“It’s not black and white: this is what the non-kink people do and this is what the kink people do,” Boas cautioned. But the study is showing that in the LGBTQ and kink communities, “sexual consent doesn’t happen apart from a sexual encounter or a sexual act ― it happens as a part of that.”
Link to August 15, 2016 article here.
From InsideHigherEd.com's coverage of ConsentStories™ (8.2.16)
“The idea of affirmative consent has resulted in progressive advancement of college policies,” Jason Laker, a professor in San Jose State University’s department of counselor education, said. “But just because you make it clearer what we expect in terms of consent from a legal or policy standpoint, that doesn’t change the fact that people are limited in their ability to meet those expectations.”
Link to August 2, 2016 article here.
From New York Times coverage of ConsentStories™ (1.9.16)
“These things are very tidy on paper, but in the private sphere, with two people going into a room, bringing with them expectations and assumptions, very often they are not on the same page,” said Jason Laker, a professor at San José State University, who, with a colleague, Erica Boas, created a project called Consent Stories [™], which aims to document how students communicate consent. “There’s a big gap between the laws and policies that stipulate consent, and people’s understanding of it,” Dr. Laker said.
Link to January 9, 2016 article here.
From Informatíon (Denmark) (9.8.16)
"We have also researched LGBTQ environments and 'kink communities' about dominance, sadism and masochism, and how their communication about consent works. There are often people who are involved with partners they do not know. And it is clear that you are much more obvious about what you want. It is part of the agreement you enter...it does not mean that you are verbal only. It is both and. Responsibility and respect for the borders of others are much more implicit in this kind of relationship," says Erica Boas, who, in line with Laker, points out that these practices can point to more open sexual communication.
"I would like to distinguish between consent teaching and consent law. The latter can help attorneys, administrators and investigators after something has happened and evidence is required. But it’s not something that in itself prevents abuse or helps people communicate better," explains Jason Laker."
Link to English translation of September 8, 2016 article here
From Harpers Magazine (March, 2016)
Signed and Dated
From a relationship contract created by a first-year male undergraduate and signed by him and a girlfriend. The contract is part of ongoing research for Consent Stories.
"I will not cheat. I will not flirt. I will not lie or avoid disclosing truths. I will not manipulate the relationship for profit. I will refrain from nagging. I will say “I love you” in a manner more significant than to my friends..."
Link to article in March 2016 issue here
Psych Up Live Hosted by Dr. Suzanne B. Phillips (March 3, 2016)
Consent Stories: Understanding the Language of Sexual Connection
Against the backdrop of concern with sexual violence on college campuses, Dr. Jason Laker and Dr. Erica Boas discuss their important research on the language of sexual consent among college students. In groundbreaking research on what they term “Consent Stories,” they found that far more prevalent than a hook-up culture was the difficulty of communicating sexual intention and consent or dissent. What Drs. Laker and Boas discuss is what we rarely consider in the communications of intimacy in our adult lives, much less in the understanding we pass on to our children. When is “yes a yes” and when is “no a no?” What about non-verbal communication? What about expectations and misconstrued social norms? In this episode, you will hear about ongoing research that is likely to have a powerful and protective impact in clarifying sexual intent and response in people from teens through adults. Don’t miss this.